MODELING 1
A. LEARNING BY
OBSERVATION
1. Personality
Development [ Also see Self-image ]
a. Motivations
b. Emotions
c. Standards
(conscience)
d. Comprehensive
e. Powerful method
2. Stages
a. Observation
b. Acquisition
(recorded)
c. Acceptance (play
back)
d. Generalization
B. A MODEL TO FOLLOW
1. Imitators of God:
Ephesians 5:1
2. Model Believers
a. Paul - II Thess.
3:6-9
b. Timothy - I
Timothy 4:12
c. Leaders - Titus
1:6-9
d. Older Men - Titus
2:2
e. Women - Titus
2:3-5
f. Young Men - Titus
2:6-8
g. Slaves - Titus
2:9-10
h. All Christians -
Titus 2:11-14, I Thess. 1:4-10, II Corinthians
3:2-3.
C. NEGATIVE MODELS
1. TV, Video
2. Peers
3. Music
MODELING 2
A. SOCIALIZATION
1. Compliance - External
Controls
2. Identification Before
Internalization:
The Formation of
Conscience [ Also see Guilt ]
a. Define:
"striving to be like another"
b. Admiration
c.Parental
affection:
an emotional bond of Love
d. Inner feelings
revealed
e. Consistent
discipline
f. Variety of
experiences over long term
g. Verbal
explanations contiguous
h. Community
congruent: Family, friends
i. Result: Adoption
of traits, values and character of person admired
3. Delay of
Gratification: Resistance to Temptations
a. Desire
b. Adult admired:
child admired
c. Adult places
desire "on hold": complete verbal
explanations provided
d. Child frustrated,
but trusts adult
e. Adult
"delivers" as promised
B. THE BIBLICAL MODEL
1. I Thess. 2:10-12
a. Blameless
b. Father
care: encouragement
2. I Thess. 2:5-9
a. Integrity:
sincere
b. Mother
care: gentle - loving
c. Productive: hard
work
3. The Gospel According
To You
a. I Corinthians
10:31-33
b. I Corinthians
11:1
CONSISTENCY
A. CHILDREN (Also see Development Topics)
1. Needs
a. Security:
Unconditional love
b. Significance:
self esteem
2. Response of Parents
a. Affection:
emotional bond of love
b. Consistent
discipline
B. HOW NOT TO BRING UP
CHILDREN:
HOW TO
OFFEND; PROVOKE TO ANGER
1. Lack of Parental
Affection
a. No physical
affection
b. No time alone
c. Not saying THANK
YOU
d. Not praising
e. Not saying I LOVE
YOU
f. Breaking promises
g. Always busy
h. Ignoring me, -not
listening; opinions don't matter
i. Insults:
"clumsy", "sloppy",
"dummy", "stupid", "no
good"
j. Teasing, making
fun of me; allowing others to put me down
k. Critical,
sarcastic, comparing me with others, bringing up
past to deal with present
l. Parental discord,
bickering
m. Role-reversal,
(parent expects nurture from child)
n. Vicarious (adult
lives out desires through child)
o.
Seductiveness,-sex abuse
2. Lack of Consistent
Discipline
a. Neglect
b. Permissiveness
c. Bail out
d. Inconsistency
(discipline today but not the next time for same
problem)
e. Possessiveness
(dependency of child fostered; thinking for
child)
f. Demanding too
much
g. Punish in anger
h. Misuse of force -
cruel
i. Yelling
j. Foul language
k. Physical abuse
C. FATHERS: HOW TO BRING
UP
1. Who? - Fathers
a. Ephesians 6:1-4
b. Knows family
members
c. Has plans and
goals
d. Motivates
e. I Thessalonians
2:7-8,11-12
2. Paideia: Proverbs 22:6
a. Child training
b.
"Nurture", KJV; "Training",
NIV
c. Child education:
guidance, correction
d. Discipline is NOT
punishment only:
Psalm 23, "Rod
and Staff", "Goodness and Mercy"
e. I Sam 2 and 3:
Eli's son
f. Hebrews 12:11
3. Noutheteo
a. Specific teaching
with a corrective and problem solving approach
b.
"Instruction", NIV;
"admonition", KJV: counsel; warn
c. Proverbs 23:19-28
QUESTIONS
ON CONSISTENCY:
1. What are two essential
elements of parenting?
2. What was your parent's
style of parenting?
(Review the four styles:
1
Dominant,
2
Neglectful,
3
Permissive and
4
Affectionate-Discipline.)
3. What is your style of
parenting?
4. What is the basis of
behavior modification?
Compare this with the two
primary needs of children.
5. In what ways do you
offend your children?
(Provoke to anger) Review
the list in the lecture outline;
Rewrite each item as a
positive concept.
6 . How could you improve
your parenting style?
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