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UNDERSTANDING COMMUNICATION

What are some reasons we have problems with communication? What exactly is communication? Too often our fears of rejection block significant understanding of each other. Furthermore, communication does not just happen. It requires skillful listening, time and energy. One must plan to communicate! Actually, our desire to be loved and accepted, to be understood, cannot be fulfilled unless we learn how to listen and how to be genuine in our relationships.

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What exactly is communication? A study of the stages, mechanics, and content of communication with a view to how Christ is the model of communication.

OUTLINE
A. WHAT IS COMMUNICATION ?

1. Sharing Information

a. Communion

b. Make known

c. Transmit; Exchange; Impart

d. Make common to all what one presently possesses.

e. Understanding and acting upon the message sent

f. James 1:22-25

g. Revelation 3:19-22 (7 times)

2. Always Involves At Least Two People

a. Message sender

b. Message receiver

B. STAGES OF COMMUNICATION

1. Contact

2. Emotions

a. Listen

b. Take enough time

c. Reflect, Clarify, Explore

3. Thoughts

a. Reasoning; logic

4. Action

a. Commitment

b. Response

C. MECHANICS OF COMMUNICATION

1. Non-verbal aspects

2. Feedback - Close the loop?

3. Ask questions

4. Methods

a. Written (recorded)

b. Phone

c. In person

5. Select Appropriate Person

a. Matthew 18:15

6. Select The Right Place

7. Be Timely

8. Work!!

D. THE MODEL OF COMMUNICATION: CHRIST

1. Incarnation

a. Logos: John 1:1

b. John 1:14,18; Hebrews 1:1-3

c. Empathy: Hebrews 4:14-15

d. Humility: Philippians 2:1-7 - Not defensive

2. Personal Communion

a. Fully and completely

b. Unconditional love

c. John 16:12-15; John 17:6-8, 17-26

E. CONTENT OF COMMUNICATION

1. Forgiving

a. Ephesians 4:29-32

b. Matthew 5:23-24

2. Integrity: A Clear Conscience

a. Psalm 66:18

3. Tactful

a. Colossians 4:6

b. II Timothy 2:24-26

4. Thankful

a. Philippians 2:14-16

b. Ephesians 5:19-20

c. I Corinthians 10:1-10

F. Examples

1. Words of acceptance

2. Words of rejection

3. See "The Marriage Builder", pages 77-84.

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