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 OVERCOMING ANGER 

Do you explode in a  RAGE ?

How do you feel when you get angry? How do you express yourself when you are upset or angry? Maybe you launch a defensive ATTACK by yelling, cursing or even physical violence. 

But sometimes we may express anger in a disguise
such as withdrawal, refusing to talk, irritability, depression, even lateness or forgetfulness. We may not recognize that we are angry! Sometimes we try to hurt a person or get back at them in a way that may not appear as anger, at first. Have you ever asked yourself, "Why do I get so upset - so angry"? Someone has said, "The angriest person in the world is really the most fearful person." We may assume rejection and feel very insecure and frightened.

You can discover the root causes of your anger and learn how to live without being controlled by rage.
THERE IS A REMEDY FOR PROBLEM ANGER!
Let me show you how you can overcome problem anger by contacting me today!

How to recognize the many ways anger is expressed and understand its cause and purpose;
a remedy for problem anger is presented.

OUTLINE

A. DEFINE

1. Thought

2. Emotion

B. ETIOLOGY (Cause and Purpose)

1. Defense against anxiety

a. Perceived threat: Hurt

b. Defensive detachment

c. Hidden hostility

2. Control

a. Motivation of self

b. Motivation for others to change

c. Righteous: Warn

Romans 1:18; Psalms 95:10-11

d. Sinful: Punish or manipulate

Ephesians 4:31-32; Proverbs 22:24-25

3. Expectation Unmet

a. Evaluation of event

b. Need : "I must have!"

c. Bitterness

d. Manipulate; force

e. Retaliation: revenge

C. METHODS OF EXPRESSION: RECOGNIZING ANGER

1. Direct

a. Verbal abuse

b. Physical abuse

2. Indirect: Passive-aggressive (Disguised anger)

a. Psychosomatic

b. Depression

c. Soiling

d. Drug abuse

e. Irritability

f. Refusing to talk

g. Inefficiency

h. Discourteous driving habits

i. Habitually late

j. Forgetfulness, Etc!

3. Transference

a. Displacement

D. FALSE REMEDIES FOR ANGER

1. Repression

2. Expression

a. May produce temporary relief

b. Root cause remains

E. THE REMEDY FOR PROBLEM ANGER

1. Expectations made explicit

a. Evaluation of event

b. Needs: Met in Christ -

Romans 8:28, 35-39

c. Desires: Plans

2. Confession

3. Forgiveness

a. Matthew 6:12-15

b. Romans 12:14-21

4. Minister - Seek to help others

a. I Timothy 6:17-19

b. Romans 12:9-13

Analyze Your Anger

1. When do you often get angry?

2. How do you express anger?

3. What was your expectation(s)?

4. Describe how you could change you expectation (s) in the form of needs to desires?

5. How could you minister instead of manipulate?
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